Could Man and Woman Really be Just Friends?

By the rule of nature, opposite attracts each other and this is also true between men and women. This is a natural phenomenon, and also not to disregard our past cultural upbringing that men are working and women must be at home, and the only way that they could get together was for the purpose of romance.

In reality, men are compliments of women. Though many say that friendship between men and women is quite impossible because there is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship, but we have to consider that there are always exceptions. There are still other kinds of possibilities that true friendship between men and woman may exist. It only depends on our individual views and on how we look at friendship.

Now on these modern days, that men and women are both actively working, shares a common interest and have constant interaction between each other, its not impossible that friendship will flourish. So naturally, the question arises: “Is it possible for a man and a woman socialize without sexual attraction, tension, passion and stay in platonic relationship? I think yes, its possible for a man and a woman to be just friends because the basics of friendship are the similarities in interest, the compatibility and the confidence and trust that you are willing to give, not gender differences. One woman even suggest that if you are able to sleep (without sex) soundly with a man in one bed without any distractions you van really be only friends.

David Bromstad

The first time I knew about David Bromstad was when I was searching for a good program to watch on TV since I can't sleep, then I happen to browse thought the lifestyle network and Design Star was airing that time. Since I am a reality TV show fanatic I got interested and watched the full episode. At the end of the episode, they presented their designs and I was amazed by his creativity and artistry. I really got interested with the show but sadly, I can't follow the weekly airing of its episodes, luckily, before the season ends, they had a Design star marathon and I did watched it for seven hours straight.

As a background, Design Star is an American reality competition show and each week, the remaining contestants participate in an interior design challenge and they compete for their own show on HGTV.

David Bromstad became the winner of the first season of HGTV Design Star, is known for his endless energy and out-of-the-box thinking. Bromstad began his career as a design student at the Ringling School of Art and Design in Sarasota, Fla. Earnest, passionate, talented and innovative, Bromstad creates awe-inspiring works on many platforms, including custom art, furniture building and interior design.
As a Design Star champion, he won a slot as host of the new must see series, Color Splash. In the show, blends styles that incorporate realism and fantasy." He combines this approach with a love of color and practical advice that shows how to transform tired rooms into unique, vibrant spaces. He brings his exuberance, passion, decorating savvy and unwavering belief that "color is the root of great design" to transform tired rooms for homeowners each week into vibrant, unforgettable spaces — while he teaches us to do the same in our homes.

Friends

As I was going through my things, I happen to stumble on my college pictures. It was four years then but still the memories are impossible to be forgotten. Though most of them are now working abroad or in other places here in the Philippines, pursuing their own careers, it still feel great to get in touch with them every once in a while. Thanks to the internet and cell phones,it is surely a great help in bridging the distance and keeping the friendship still burning even miles apart.

What is a friend?
Someone who...
Accepts you as you are,
Believes in "you",
Calls you just to say "HI",
Doesn't give up on you,

Envisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts),
Forgives your mistakes,

Gives unconditionally,
Helps you,
Inspires you to be the best you can be,
Just happy to be with you,
Keeps you close at heart,
Loves you for who you are,

Makes a difference in your life,
Never judges,
Offers support,
Picks you up,

Quiets your fears,
Raises your spirits,
Says nice things about you,
Tells you the truth when you need to hear it,
Understands you,

Values you, Walks beside you, X-plains things you don't understand, Yells when you won't listen and Zaps you back to reality.

Friendship is not based on how many secrets you share. Isn't how well you get along nor how much you like each other. Isn't how people see you together. But friendship appreciates the differences, the gaps, the hindrances, the trials...and still a friend looks at you straight from the heart without hatred, without judgment, without envy, without criticism and only pure acceptance .

Friends are the angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget. They are like stars... you don't always see them, but you know, they are always there. A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.

Similarities create friendship's while differences hold them together.

A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.

Friends are people who comes into our lives that left footprints in our hearts that made us never the same.




When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

How Well do you Know Your Personality

Each one of us has our own different personality. These differences makes us unique and it affects how we deal with other people. These differences spices our friendship, stretches our patience with our relationships and makes life more exciting being with other people. But these differences with our personality also creates misunderstandings, petty quarrels or even worse. In order to understand and deal with other people, we must first understand ourselves and try to determine our strengths and weaknesses, through these, we can better understand other people and make a compromise for a better relationship.

One tool in determining our personality is the Enneagram Personality Theory. It is an introspective tool, a psycho dynamic model of nine types. From one point of view, the Enneagram can be seen as a set of nine distinct personality types, with each number on the Enneagram denoting one type. It is common to find a little of yourself in all nine of the types, although one of them should stand out as being closest to yourself. This is your basic personality type.

Here's the basic personality traits of the nine personality types I compiled.

These are some of the variations of the names of the Ennea-types, or sometimes they are referred to simply just by number.

One: Perfectionist or Reformer

Two: Helper or Giver

Three: Performer, Producer or Achiever

Four: Tragic Romantic, Individualist or Connoisseur

Five: Observer ... Investigator ... Sage

Six: Devil's Advocate ... Loyalist ... Troubleshooter ... Guardian

Seven: Epicure ... Enthusiast ... Visionary ... Dreamer ... Generalist

Eight: Boss ... Top Dog ... Challenger ... Confronter

Nine: Mediator ... Peacemaker ... Preservationist

Type One “Reformer” does everything right away, produces order and is principled, purposeful, self-controlled, and perfectionistic.

Ego fixation: resentment

Holy idea: perfection

Passion/Vice: anger

Virtue: serenity

How to get along with type One personality

• Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.

• Acknowledge my achievements.

• I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.

• Tell me that you value my advice.

• Be fair and considerate, as I am.

• Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive.

• Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.

Type Two "Helper" always helps others and is demonstrative, generous, people-pleasing and possessive.

Ego fixation: flattery
Holy idea: freedom
Passion/Vice: pride
Virtue: humility

How to get along with type Two personality

• Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.

• Share fun times with me.

• Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.

• Let me know that I am important and special to you.

• Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.

Type Three “Motivator” desires success and is adaptive, excelling, driven, and image-conscious.

Ego fixation: vanity
Holy idea: hope
Passion/Vice: deceit
Virtue: truthfulness

How to get along with type Three personality

• Leave me alone when I am doing my work.

• Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.

• Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.

• Don't burden me with negative emotions.

• Tell me you like being around me.

• Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments.

Type Four "Tragic Romantic" wants to be unique and expressive, dramatic, self-absorbed and temperamental.

Ego fixation: melancholy

Holy idea: origin

Passion/Vice: envy

Virtue: equanimity

How to get along with type Four personality

• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.

• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.

• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.

• Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.

• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

Type Five “Thinker” needs to understand the world and is perceptive, innovative, secretive, and isolated.

Ego fixation: stinginess

Holy idea: omniscience

Passion/Vice: avarice

Virtue: detachment

How to get along with type Five personality

• Be independent, not clingy.

• Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.

• I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.

• Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.

• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.

• If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.

• don't come on like a bulldozer.

• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

Type Six “Skeptic” shows affection and is engaging, responsible, anxious, and suspicious.

Ego fixation: cowardice

Holy idea: faith

Passion/Vice: fear

Virtue: courage

How to get along with type Six personality

• Be direct and clear.

• Listen to me carefully.

• Don't judge me for my anxiety.

• Work things through with me.

• Reassure me that everything is OK between us.

• Laugh and make jokes with me.

• Gently push me toward new experiences.

• Try not to overreact to my overreacting.

Type Seven “Enthusiast” enjoys and is open to new things, spontaneous, versatile, distractible, and scattered.

Holy idea: work

Passion/Vice: gluttony

Virtue: sobriety

How to get along with type Seven personality

• Give me companionship, affection, and freedom.

• Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter.

• Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my stories.

• Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I am.

• Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people.

• Don't tell me what to do.

Type Eight “Leader” desires strength and is self-confident, decisive, willful, and confrontational.

Ego fixation: vengeance

Holy idea: truth

Passion/Vice: excess (lust)

Virtue: innocence

How to get along with type Eight personality

• Stand up for yourself... and me.

• Be confident, strong, and direct.

• Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.

• Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.

• Give me space to be alone.

• Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.

• I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.

• When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.

Type Nine “Peacemaker” longs peacefulness and is receptive, reassuring, agreeable, and complacent.

Ego fixation: indolence

Holy idea: love

Passion/Vice: laziness (sloth)

How to get along with type Nine personality

• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.

• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this.

• Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.

• Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and non judgmentally.

• Ask me questions to help me get clear.

• Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.

• Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.

• I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.

• Let me know you like what I've done or said.

• Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.

Want to know more about your own Personality? Try this short personality quiz.

Negative Effects or Working in Night Shift

I'm working as a link builder in one of the outsourcing companies here in the Philippines, and I've been working for more than a year now on a night shift, but still my body is still not yet (and I don't think it will be) adjusted to my sleeping schedule. My eating habits has drastically changed and aside from not having enough sleep, it seems that I can't also have enough time for myself since I am working at night then sleep at daytime with only a few hours of sleep. I'd be lucky enough to sleep for more than five hours a day which only happens sometimes. I've practically tried every sleeping tip I know from making my bedroom as dark as possible to eating foods that may help for better sleeping, but it did only a little help. At times when I desperately need to rest and sleep but my body just resist, I even take paracetamol or anti allergy medicines. So I did some research on how night shift affects one's body. I am aware that it's not good nor healthy so I try to avoid it now. So I did some research on other scientifically proven facts on the effects of night shift on our body.


When you are awake at night and asleep during the day, your body does not receive powerful biological cues from the amount of light in the environment. These cues are necessary to regulate the circadian rhythms that control your sleep/wake cycle and this causes difficulty in falling asleep and getting enough deep sleep. An additional problem is switching from a night schedule to a day schedule on days off, or during changes in your work shift. This switching causes the same effects as jet lag. Working on a night shift may lead to an increased risk of insomnia and other sleep disorders. Night shift work has also been shown to increase the risk of heart and digestive problems, as well as problems with moods and emotions. Night shift workers are at an increased risk for safety accidents due to tiredness.


Seattle - Oct. 16, 2001 - Women who work the graveyard shift may face an up to 60 percent increased risk of breast cancer, according to a Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center study. Led by Scott Davis, Ph.D., a member of the Hutchinson Center's Public Health Sciences Division, the study is one of two independent investigations. Davis and colleagues found that women who worked the graveyard shift at least once during the decade before breast-cancer diagnosis were at approximately 60 percent increased risk for breast cancer compared with those who did not work the graveyard shift. In addition, the risk of breast cancer significantly increased with each additional hour per week of graveyard-shift work.


Also according to the study from the different sources, here we are providing some informative message for this topic. People who work nights are more prone to a dangerous heart condition - possibly because of the chronic stress caused by their work patterns. A research suggests that “employees who worked in day shifts are more safe then the night shift employees. The chances of heart attack are very high for the night shift employees few more reasons are lack of sleep, continue stressing etc, chronic stress is cited as the main reason.” Mostly it happens because human body’s natural circadian rhythms tell that the concerned person should not be working when he or she should take sleep.

These information surely bothers not only me but also for others who works at this kind of job but I think we have to deal with it because this unhealthy lifestyle is our source of living.

Would You Risk Friendship for Love?

Nothing makes life any sweeter than having someone you can call a bestfriend. Someone you can totally be comfortable being yourself. Someone who makes your joys more memorable and share with your burdens to make it more bearable. You spend couple of hours talking on the phone, you enjoy being together talking about your dreams, desires or just silly things or just plainly chilling out.

But sometimes complicated things may happen when your bestfriend is of opposite sex, Because you spend a lot of time together it's inevitable that one day you'll just realize that your falling for someone you consider your bestfriend. If you happen to be in that situation, it's a great dilemma to deal with. Would you be frank enough to tell him/her what you really feel and put your friendship on a risk of falling apart or would you rather keep it to yourself and have all these “what if's” for the rest of your life.

Me, personally I don't know the exact answer to this question. But one thing I am sure of, that honesty is still the best policy. If you're not quite sure what to do, just be honest enough to show how you fell and honest enough to say what's in your mind (promise, it will save you a lot of effort pretending that there's nothing going on). Don't be in a hurry to make things happen, just enjoy the time being together and the joy that your friendship brings you. Anyway, destiny knows how to find its ways, if your really meant for each other, it will happen in time. Cherish every moment being together because happiness is isn't found at the end of the road but along the way.

And to end this, let me share you these words:

Fall but not stumble;

Be consistent but not persistent;

Give but don't expect something in return;

Understand and don't demand;

Share but don't count;

You might get hurt but never keep the pain.

Life's Simple Lessons

Lesson 1:

A man is getting into the shower just as his wife is finishing up her
shower, when the doorbell rings. The wife quickly wraps herself in a
towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob,
the next-door neighbor.

Before she says a word, Bob says, "I'll give you $800 to drop that
towel." After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and
stands naked in front of Bob. After a few seconds, Bob hands her $800
and leaves. The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back
upstairs.

When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks, "Who was that?" "It
was Bob the next door neighbor," she replies. Great!" the husband
says, "did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?"

Moral of the story:

If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with
your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent
avoidable exposure.

Lesson 2:

A priest offered a Nun a lift. She got in and crossed her legs,
forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident.
After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg.

The nun said, "Father, remember Psalm 129?" The priest removed his
hand.

But, changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun
once again said, "Father, remember Psalm 129?" The priest apologized
"Sorry Sister, but the flesh is weak."

Arriving at the convent, the nun sighed heavily and went on her way.
On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129.
It said, "Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory."

Moral of the story:

If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great
opportunity.

Lesson 3:

A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to
lunch when they find an antique oil lamp.

They rub it and a Genie comes out. The Genie says, "I'll give each of
you just one wish!"

"Me first! Me first!" says the admin clerk. "I want to be in the
Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world." Pouff!
She's gone.

"Me next! Me next!" says the sales rep. "I want to be in Hawaii ,
relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of
Pina Coladas and the love of my life." Pouff! He's gone.

"OK, you're up," the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, "I
want those two back in the office after lunch."

Moral of the story:

Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 4

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing. A small rabbit
saw the eagle and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do
nothing?"

The eagle answered: "Sure, why not." So, the rabbit sat on the ground
below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped
on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:

To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high
up.

Lesson 5

A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to
the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the
energy."

"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the
bull. "They're packed with nutrients."

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him
enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.

The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second
branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched
at the top of the tree. He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot
him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:

Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

Lesson 6

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the
bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field. While he was
lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.

As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to
realize how warm he was. The dung was actually thawing him out! He
lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy. A
passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following
the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung,
and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Morals of the story:

(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
(3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep your mouth shut!


This was sent to me through my yahoo groups - funny but true. So i think it's worth posting to my blog.

Life's Blessings

We can always hear ourselves or other people complaining just about anything and everything. What we have is oftentimes not enough, and we have an endless list of the things we wish to acquire. But at some point in our lives, did we ever consider how blessed and lucky we are and appreciate the simple and common things we often neglect? Try to contemplate on the following information and feel blessed for the things we have.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and a spare change in a dish someplace, you are the top 8% of the worlds wealthy.

If you woke up this morning with more good health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week

If you never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the anguish of personal loss and the pangs of hunger, you are ahead of 500 million people in the world

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death, you are more blessed than 3 billion people in the world

If you can hold smeone's hand, hug your friend or even touch them on the shoulder, you are blessed because you are able to offer healing touch

If you can read this message, you are belssed than over 2 billion people that can't read at all.

My Four Best Authors

Reading is one of my interests. Well, before I starting working on a night shift because you can't just have enough time for yourself if your wide awake at night (except for those times I am caught sleeping during office hours LOL) and sleeping through the day. Though occasionally, I still find time to read good books. I basically read anything and everything with the exception of romance novels and medical related books or articles because I just can't relate to them but my favorite is horror books.

When reading novels, I'm not really particular with the authors, as long as I enjoy the story but you really can't avoid having favorites.

I actually have four favorite authors with with respective genre of writing.

Christopher Pike, a pseudonym for Kevin McFadded is my very first favorite author. An American writer born on November 1954 in New York but grew up in California. McFadden is a highly private person and the only known information about him is only gathered from his books and a very few interviews. He writes about young-adult science fiction, horror and thriller “not so long stories” which is at that time good for those who just started to get interested in reading pocket books like me. I just love the stories he is writing in his book and I just wish to be able to read all his books but It's hard to find it in book rental shops and “second hand” book shops (since buying brand new books is a little expensive).

Being a college drop-out, he did factory work, painted houses and programmed computers before becoming a recognized author. Initially unsuccessful when he set out to write science fiction and adult mystery, it was not until his work caught the attention of an editor who suggested he write a teen thriller that he became a hit. The result was his first book the Slumber Party (1985), a book about a group of teenagers who run into bizarre and violent events during a ski weekend. Although his books are best known for being thrillers, they are often more focused on aspects of science fiction, spirituality, and whodunit. References to Egyptian, Greek and Hindu mythology are also common in his stories. He is also the author of of the popular children's series Spooksville.

Sidney Sheldon or Sidney Schechtel, born on February 11, 1917 and died at the age of 89 on January 30, 2007. He was born in Chicago, Illinois,a famous and Academy Award-winning American writer who won awards in three careers: a Broadway playwright, a Hollywood TV and movie screenwriter, and a best-selling novelist.

In 1969, Sheldon wrote his first novel, The Naked Face, which earned him a nomination for the Edgar Allan Poe Award from the Mystery Writers of America in the category of Best First Novel.

Sidney Sheldon's writing genre are Crime-fiction and Thriller. His stories often features strong and determined women who persevere and succeeds in a tough world run by hostile men. When asked why, he said that he liked to write about women who are talented and capable, but most important, retain their femininity. He also said that omen have tremendous power which is their femininity which men can't do without it.

V. C. Andrews or Virginia C. Andrews, is a known name for Cleo Virginia Andrews. An American Novelist born June 6, 1923 in Portsmouth, Virginia and died at the age of 63 on December 19, 1986 of breast cancer. Her stories involves very strong emotions and I can sometimes find myself crying while reading her novels.

Her first novel, titled Gods of Green Mountain, was a science fiction effort that remained unpublished during her lifetime but was released as an e-book in 2004.A writer of Gothic Horror and Family saga, her novels often revolves around family secrets and forbidden love involving themes of consensual incest and often which led to many critics claiming that her writing style was eccentric and immoral. She earned many awards and one of which is The Number One Best selling Author of Popular Horror and Occult Paperbacks" by the American Booksellers Association in 1986, beating out Stephen King.

Clive Cussler is a writer of adventure novels which features the adventures of Dirk Pitt. Born in Aurora, Illinois and grew up in Alhambra, California. He attended Pasadena City College for two years and then enlisted in the United States Air Force during the Korean War. During his service in the Air Force he was promoted to Sergeant and worked as an aircraft mechanic and flight engineer for the Military Air Transport Service.

Clive Cussler's life nearly parallels that of his hero in his books Dirk Pitt. He divides his time between the desserts of Arizona and the mountains of Colorado searching for lost aircraft or leads expeditions to find famous shipwrecks.

Cussler is a fellow of the Explorers Club of New York, the Royal Geographic Society in London, and the American Society of Oceanographers.

Life's Simple Instruction

I've been collecting poems, quotations, inspirational messages and the like since my high school days. So, here's a list of some which I think worth sharing.

Most of these passages were collected way back before in high school and early college that there's no way I could remember where I got them.

Thoughts to Live By

• True friends will make fun of what you do but support you all the way.Acquaintances will praise your work then not give a damn.
• The only permanent thing in life is change, the sooner you'll accept that, the sooner you'll be happy.
• Don't talk unless you can improve the silence.
• There's no shortcuts to any place worth going to.
• Always be friendly to people on your way to the top. You are going to meet them again on your way down.
• You were never a failure, unless you blame someone else.
• The teacher you hate the most, gives you the worst grades, doesn't credit you for your efforts and can't be bought. He goes by the name “Experience”.
• Cry him/her a river. Then build a bridge and walk over it. You may have to repeat the “procedure” a couple of times before you can stop building bridges.
• If you don't have anything nice to say about your neighbor, it's best to shut up. Keep things to yourself and walk away. “Why destroy other person's image when you yourself have to work on your own.
• You can cry over spilled milk but just make sure to clean up afterward.

On a Lighter Side

• You're never too old to learn something stupid
• Never miss a good chance to shut up
• Don't run, you'll just die tired.
• The number of people is directly proportional to the stupidity of your action.
• Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway.

Remembrance from the Past

This poem was written nearly ten years ago and is actually the very first poem I have ever written (this was the time when I was still a hopeless romantic teen. LOL) for the purpose of "officially" putting an end to whatever that's been bugging my mind and to finally say goodbye to someone who used to be a special friend. Sadly, I didn't have the time and the courage to give it to that person.
This is also the first time that I am letting other people actually read it, so, here it goes:

Here I am
Trying to be poetic as I can
Writing things I never thought I can

Remembering the things we've shared and done
I realized that there are still so many words and deeds
Left unsaid and undone

Learning to let you go
Was the hardest thing for me to do
For you are one of the best persons I've known

You taught me things that can never be found in books
Opened my eyes into life's realities
And helped me how to conquer life's difficulties

With you I found true happiness
Friendship that was pure and true
And left me with memories that will be forever cherished

But now I must face the truth
That you're gone and on your separate way
And I must go on with my life's journey

This simple poem may not fully explain
Everything that I want to tell
But this I offer you

To let you know how much you meant to me
And thank you for touching my life
Making me the person I am right now

This I promise and assure you
That you'll always be a part of me and to forget you
Is the last thing that I would do

Lastly, I want to say goodbye
Hoping that you'll never forget me
For your memories will always be with me.

The use of Colors as an Alternative Medicine

About a few years back, I read an article from a magazine about color therapy and chakras.
Since that time, I had been interested with colors and how can it affects one's moods and
personality.

Color surrounds us everywhere and see beauty but little we know about the healing properties of colors. Most of us don't have yet the idea on how colors affects our moods, reactions and even heal or ailments.

Color therapy is an alternative healing that had been used since ancient times in ancient times. Though it is said that it is not scientifically proven, many experiments shows that color affects us in invisible but dramatic ways. Every color sends outs its own positive and negative signals, which our subconscious then picks up on, making us choose certain colors and ignore others.


Red root chakra (trunk to legs)
Associated with: light of life
Balancing color: blue or turquoise
Verb: I have
Too much of the color: high blood pressure
Too little: fatigue, anemia, low blood pressure

• Helps dry up mucus membrane, kill cancer cell ans stimulates iron production.

Yellow solar plexus chakra ( above the navel and below the heart)
Associated with: physical health and mental digestion of thoughts, will power and asserting oneself
Balancing color: violet
Verb: I can
Too much of the color: nervousness and anxiety about nothing, stubborn, judgmental and critical
Too little: little food intake, ulcers, anorexia and bulimia

• Good for digestion

Green heart chakra
Associated with: life, love abundance, fertility and wealth
Balancing color: none
Verb: I love
Too much of the color: overcautious, indecisive, insecure and heart ailments
Too little: hard hearted and lack of compassion

• Regulates the flow of blood

Orange sacral chakra (stomach; between pelvis and navel)
Associated with: joy and movement
Balancing color: indigo
Verb: I feel
Too much of the color: stress, weakened immune system
Too little: fearful, jealous and repressed

• Eases respiratory conditions, making phlegm and catarrh easier to expel

Turquoise or blue throat chakra (all things related to speech including lungs)
Associated with: creative and communication skills
Balancing color: red
Verb: I speak
Too much of the color: too much talk and no action
Too little: nervousness, unable to verbalize needs and always give way to others

• Helps overcome nervousness and gives courage so say things that must be said

Indigo third eye chakra (center of the forehead)
Associated with: psychic, intuition, broadmindedness and extra sensory perception
Balancing color: orange
Verb: I see
Too much of the color: depression
Too little: narrow mindedness, superstitious, doubtful and learning difficulties

• Helps when you can’t sleep

Violet crown chakra (top of the skull)
Associated with: pure creative energy, connection to the divine, spiritual power and concern for others
Balancing color: red
Verb: I am
Too much of the color: over sensitive, power hungry and mental disorders.
Too little: negative self image and low self esteem.




Pink is the ideal color for leaving the past behind. Wear it when you wan to move on from an unhappy situation and you’ll feel a whole lot more positive.

Red is the ideal color for topping up your strength and energy level. So, it you’ve felling as if you could stay in bed like forever, get into red

Yellow is the ideal color for ensuring peace of mind. Wear it if you’ve got important exam coming up and you’ll feel less panicky and more in control

Orange is the ideal color for finding happiness through independence. Surround yourself with orange when you fell like spending time just chilling out

Violet is the ideal color for fulfilling your dreams. If your waiting for something good to happen, shades of purple will make the wait worthwhile.

Blue is the ideal color for achieving inner peace and tranquility. Perfect for those times when you’ve been so stressed your fingernails can’t take it anymore.

Turquoise is the ideal color for those seeking calmness and purity. If you’ve been living life in the fast lane, spend a day in turquoise to recharge those batteries.

Green is the ideal color for emphasizing your positive feelings for others. So if a friend needs support, put your advice hat on and make sure its green.

Black is the ideal color if you want to become inconspicuous.
Black clothing can say "Notice me but do not intrude.

White is the ideal color to impart a pure, wholesome impression. Surround yourself with white if your surroundings feel cluttered and you want to refresh your mind.

Friendship Posters

Beautiful friendship posters I found on flicker

Difference of Friends from Best friend

As I was thinking for a nice entry for my first post on my first public blog, I remembered an email which was sent to me by a friend about "friend vs. best friend.

In my life, I consider myself lucky to have met two wonderful persons which I considered my best friends. Though they have different personalities and ideals and had been a part of my life at different times, they have touched and changed my outlook towards the beauty of friendship in one's life.

So, based on my personal experiences and an excerpt that I have taken from the email, here's a list of the differences of having a friend and a best friend.

Friend: has never seen you cry
Best friend: has always had the best shoulder to cry on

Friend: gives comments and advice
Best friend: gives opinions and decisions

Friend: never asks for anything to eat or drink
Best friend: opens the fridge and makes herself at home

Friend: will be there for you in just a call
Best friend: is already there even before you think of calling

Friend: asks you to write down your number.
Best friend: they ask you for their number
(cuz they can't remember it)

Friend: needs your explanation for you to be understood
Best friend: silence is sometimes enough

Friend: borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
Best friend: has a closet full of your stuff

Friend: forgives you when you say sorry
Best friend: forgives you even before you forgive yourself

Friend: only knows a few things about you
Best friend: could write a biography on your life story

Friend: will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing
Best friend: will always go with you