What Is Love

Everybody wants and needs love, and everybody actually feels it and have it in so many different ways, but why can't we find a universal meaning for love. Each one of us has its own definition of love but what's right for someone might be totally wrong for another. And that makes me wonder, with all those interpretations and definitions, how could we really know if we are really in love or we are just in love with the idea of being in love?


Of course, I'm talking here about romantic love. We may feel or think that something is right but what if everybody finds it wrong, can it still be considered love? It's really true that love is blind, we get blinded by the feelings we have for that moment, and do things that we think is right, But when love decides to leave, soon we realize that all those things we used to believe to be right was just plain stupidity. Why could something so good could hurt so bad and why something so wonderful could break your heart into pieces? Yet, despite the pain and all the uncertainties, we sometimes tend to cling to love and forget to know when to say it's enough and let go.

One thing's for sure, love is complicated and mysterious, we can't fully define or understand it because it has its own reasons that no matter how hard we try, we can never fathom its depths. It's a gift that's given freely and we can never force it to stay. All we can do is to accept it when it arrives and let it go when it decides to leave. When it arrives, we might know how long it will stay, all we can do is cherish it while we still have it. It might not be always right but it will always give you memories that will last a lifetime. One day, when you look back, you can say to yourself, all the pain was worth all the happiness I had and you'll be more than enough willing to be in love all over again.

Could Man and Woman Really be Just Friends?

By the rule of nature, opposite attracts each other and this is also true between men and women. This is a natural phenomenon, and also not to disregard our past cultural upbringing that men are working and women must be at home, and the only way that they could get together was for the purpose of romance.

In reality, men are compliments of women. Though many say that friendship between men and women is quite impossible because there is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship, but we have to consider that there are always exceptions. There are still other kinds of possibilities that true friendship between men and woman may exist. It only depends on our individual views and on how we look at friendship.

Now on these modern days, that men and women are both actively working, shares a common interest and have constant interaction between each other, its not impossible that friendship will flourish. So naturally, the question arises: “Is it possible for a man and a woman socialize without sexual attraction, tension, passion and stay in platonic relationship? I think yes, its possible for a man and a woman to be just friends because the basics of friendship are the similarities in interest, the compatibility and the confidence and trust that you are willing to give, not gender differences. One woman even suggest that if you are able to sleep (without sex) soundly with a man in one bed without any distractions you van really be only friends.

Would You Risk Friendship for Love?

Nothing makes life any sweeter than having someone you can call a bestfriend. Someone you can totally be comfortable being yourself. Someone who makes your joys more memorable and share with your burdens to make it more bearable. You spend couple of hours talking on the phone, you enjoy being together talking about your dreams, desires or just silly things or just plainly chilling out.

But sometimes complicated things may happen when your bestfriend is of opposite sex, Because you spend a lot of time together it's inevitable that one day you'll just realize that your falling for someone you consider your bestfriend. If you happen to be in that situation, it's a great dilemma to deal with. Would you be frank enough to tell him/her what you really feel and put your friendship on a risk of falling apart or would you rather keep it to yourself and have all these “what if's” for the rest of your life.

Me, personally I don't know the exact answer to this question. But one thing I am sure of, that honesty is still the best policy. If you're not quite sure what to do, just be honest enough to show how you fell and honest enough to say what's in your mind (promise, it will save you a lot of effort pretending that there's nothing going on). Don't be in a hurry to make things happen, just enjoy the time being together and the joy that your friendship brings you. Anyway, destiny knows how to find its ways, if your really meant for each other, it will happen in time. Cherish every moment being together because happiness is isn't found at the end of the road but along the way.

And to end this, let me share you these words:

Fall but not stumble;

Be consistent but not persistent;

Give but don't expect something in return;

Understand and don't demand;

Share but don't count;

You might get hurt but never keep the pain.